Love a simple word that brings the best and worst in people,something everyone craves for and searches for but what is love,whats this element that is important to human life.Love is a complex set of behaviors and beliefs associated with strong feelings of affection,protectiveness,warmth and respect for another person.This is the overall meaning of love.Lets narrow down to the romantic kind of love what people term as true love which is a strong and lasting attention between spouses or lovers who are in a happy relationship.In early stages of a relationship its difficult to tell between love and last since both are associated with physical attraction and an intoxicating rush of feel good chemicals but the difference is that lust is sex-driven sensation that is not long lasting while love is.So before you say that you love someone check again.Am a strong believer that the words "I love you " are currently overused.Everyone utters this words without even checking the intensity of his or her feelings.It seems some people jump into relationships before they even get a chance to know each other.Just like the swiftness seen with people who rush into relationships there are also those who fall quickly in what they perceive to be love.I say perceptive because this feeling that is felt is not,in actuality,love.Truly loving someone is realizing they have flaws and so do you and being able to live with that.Loving someone is being able to forgive.This an important rule in love.At some point ,we all do things that are less than perfect but loving someone allows you to see past the bad and look forward to the great.Love is unconditional meaning it is not dependent upon the other doing anything or what the other has to offer financially.
Love is willing to talk through problems and not leave whenever one appears.Love is unconditional and it doesn't have a reason ,many love is foolish and drives one mad.
As much as love is an important aspect in a relationship, it is not enough.Being in love is not enough to help a relationship survive or be happy.One can only be able to sustain a relationship no matter how much you love the other person if both of you are not willing to do the work yourselves.A relationship is like a person ,it needs love,attention, and practical things like compromise,flexibility and most importantly communication.Only you and your partner can decide whether or not the love you have is worth putting extra effort and compromise it takes to sustain a solid partnership.A relationship full of love can also go wrong if effort to make it work is not put.
As we can see love is a complex emotion and not a mere feeling that is just to be said, so the next time you say"I love you" to someone make sure you mean it and it is true,remember you like because and you love despite. Also remember that even though love is the foundation of a relationship it is not enough for a happily ever after.
And what is this enough for happily ever after?
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